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When did Parenting become a Zone Defense situation? A series of calculated plays where you cover your area and I cover my area — all in the hope nothing gets by us . . . while we pray there’s a chance for a time-out huddle.
Doesn’t it feel as though we haven’t seen each other … and I mean really seen each other … in forever? The chaos of “Life with Kids” begins from the moment we drag ourselves out of bed:
Daddy!” “Mommy!” “WAAAAAA!”
We start the business of feeding kids, corralling kids … telling kids that toothbrushes are not swords … and, oh yes, there’s that newborn. The new person who has disrupted life with his immediate and pressing needs.
(but we love him, don’t we?)
Our children see us. Talk with us. Hug on us.
Your coworkers see you. Talk with you … probably even shake your hand now and then.
As for Mommy and Daddy? “Us?” I think I remember telling you “Hi” about three weeks ago. And, I might have kicked your leg last week in an attempt to get you to stop snoring.
(lovingly, of course)
But that’s not going to cut it, is it? Mommies and Daddies need more. We need to talk. To listen to one another. To smile into the other’s eyes. To let each of us know that we (1) still love each other, (2) still want to be around each other, (3) and still think the other person hung the moon.
Maybe we need to schedule an online meeting while the kids are napping and you’re at work.
What? You think that’s crazy? Oh, no, SIR! Just think . . . it will be QUIET. We’ll be able to HEAR each other.
(oh, how long it’s been since we’ve talked in peace!)
Ahh! It’s revolutionary. No kids around and we’ll be able to communicate — granted, online events don’t necessarily allow me to hug or kick you, but I’ll take a chat over a hug right now.
I just want to hear how your days are going … and to tell you more than just “where to find the kid’s jammies.”
I. Want. To. Talk.
It will be the perfect web conferencing solution to our problem. We just have to schedule it.
(you can fit me in your calendar, right?)
Just consider this video screen capture your official invitation.
Love, Me.
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My name is Rachel -- I share tales about food and family. I'm a home-cook who focuses on fresh & simple meals to both fuel us and to help us celebrate our family-life. My day starts with coffee. Lots of coffee. 
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LOL. I google chat with DH when at work and the kids aren’t driving him nuts at home. It is the only way I get news from him some days …
I do have to say that it gets easier as they get older. At 9, almost 7 and 3 1/2 we get more and more time to ourselves. For example the kids are in bed by 7:30, and asleep by 8 p.m. every night. But we also schedule date nights and now that everyone is potty trained and can feed themselves it’s not such a chore to find someone who can watch them. And I now drop all 3 kids off at Awana on Wednesday nights and I have 1 1/2 hours to myself, and sometimes hubby comes along and we go to dinner. So hang in there. Those early years are the hardest.
I know how you feel sometimes it gets crazy!
My hubby and I like to yahoo messenger and email all day while he’s at work. But that doesn’t make up for the face to face time we so need.
Hope you get it soon!
Right now, my husband is in the Caribbean and the only way we can communicate is through Facetime chat on our iphones. His laptop has a webcam but mine doesn’t so we can’t skype. Online videos are the only thing keeping me sane right now!
Being mommy and daddy to three young people is hard. It gets better though – I promise.
Hahhahahahhhahhahahhahahhha!
What a cute post! Me and my hubby NEED to “schedule” in some US time too!!!
Awww
That is funny, love that “check one” photo !!
This feels so true! My husband and I have been missing our alone time and have created Friday dates before we pick up the kid from daycare. It is so hard to prioritize time with your spouse but so important as well.
Love the post. We e-mail each other when he is at work and at the computer but I find even that is more along the lines of were the animals fed, kid had a good day at school or whats for dinner. We all get stuck in routine. Though today I did shock him when I surprised him with a kiss while he was sweeping the stairs and I was heading up to the washroom.
Live the football analogy! It is so true though, sadly. The only time we have is after the kids are in bed and that’s when I need to do my work.